I've written a fic called Five Times Xander Didn't Get a Free Pass
a long time ago.
I still see this topic pop up every now and then. Xander never paid the price, Xander never had to deal with the consequences, Xander never had to go through the big drama Buffy and Willow go through.
Reading that pisses me off because this is what I, and a lot of Xander fans, have been whining about for the past few months and yet have others accuse us of wanting a "Xander show". The reason why people feel this way and hate Xander for it is exactly why us Xander fans whine all the time: Xander never had a flashy arc!
His character growth is doomed to be in the background or even not on-screen. He does grow up, he does become a better person, and he is actually a character I'd love my son to grow up to be like. But it's so sad that no one can see it because the process to get there isn't there. It never was, and even if it was, it's so subtle and vague.
It sucks being a Xander fan.
Although, I really love being a Xander fan when reading local_max
's posts. He really knows how to heal my bitter Xander heart. I love you, Max! *hugs*